Searching to be loved or searching to love

When we search for love, are we searching to be loved or are we really only searching to give our love?

We search for love, to be loved by someone, to receive love from someone, but is that longing or goal being entirely misinterpreted? Could it be that receiving love from someone is just the excuse we need in order to give our love back to them and it is from this giving that we actually derive love’s true joy and pleasure. Their love for us is not unimportant as it is the (self-imposed) permission or key we require for our own hearts to open to them and it is in this opening of our own heart to someone when we experience the blissful feeling of love, not when we’re receiving it from another. Of course it is very wonderful and reassuring to receive loving words, gestures or actions from another but it’s not the nectar we crave. If it was, it wouldn’t matter who loved us, irrespective of whether or not we love them, we would be forced into relentlessly feeling their love for us all day long, the simple and perhaps fortuitous fact is, we don’t.

When you love or are in love with someone, when you are apart, do you experience loves unmistakable sensation within you when you think about how much they love you, or does that really only happen when you physically experience how much love you have for them.

When this is realised, a question arises, ‘Do we really need another’s permission to open our own heart, or can we grant ourselves that pleasure?’.

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